thanks for ask this question !!
“In doesn’t matter who you are; anyone can be ‘good with people’ – as long as you’re willing to put in the work.”
While those who know me would undoubtedly consider me an extrovert, I’m confident that these 9 simple strategies can apply to anyone who wants to improve their relationships both online and IRL (in real life).
1. Change Your Mindset
Shaw - Changing Your Mind
Stop thinking in terms of “networking” and instead aim to make connecting with affiliates part of your every day life. It’s not a game to be won, it’s a life to be lived.
Every relationship you have is an opportunity to learn and grow as a person. Some relationships will be short term, others you will carry with you for the rest of your life.
Not every personal or business interaction will go as planned; sometimes this will be a pleasant surprise, other times not so much. Ah, life.
Be open. Be vulnerable. Soak in the lessons reflected by the all-telling relationship mirror.
2. Show Up
You can’t genuinely connect with people by playing ping-pong inside your head. It takes some actual practice on the field. Tie your laces and go!
If you lean more on the extrovert side of the spectrum, set a goal of meeting up with 2 people for coffee a week (this is also a great career-hunting strategy
as well). If you’re more introverted, queue up your favorite social network or open your email and dig in.
As you begin connecting with more and more people, developing these relationships will become more and more natural. That’s a good thing! It means you’re growing.
At Exosphere
, participants have been challenged to connect with PSA's who could help them on their current goals. Some have set up coffee meetings here in Chile, others have reached out to professionals in their desired field.
For many, it has been an uncomfortable challenge. What if they get rejected? How do they find the right people to talk to? But that’s the point – to push past the uncertainty and simply take action.
3. Play To Your Strengths
There’s a common misconception that in order to be successful you must be an extrovert, which is absolutely not the case.
Where you fall on the spectrum does not matter. What matters is that you know how you operate and play to your strengths.
If you’re an extrovert, be extroverted! If you’re an introvert, genuinely connect through other introverted means.
This doesn’t mean you should never try to work on your weaknesses
, but focus on utilizing the strengths you already have.
We’re all playing the same game.
4. Add Value Without Expectations
So many people operate their every day lives by seeking ways in which the world can give them something. But the people that really understand the world of relationships know the goal should be reversed.
Instead of seeking ways to add value for yourself, openly seek ways to add value for others. The more value you add to others around you the more value you’ll receive in return
Adding value obviously takes effort. That’s the point! If you’re one of the few able to consistently help those around you, you’ll stand out as someone who is trustworthy andworthy of assistance in the future.
Drop the you-scratch-my-back-and-I’ll-scratch-yours-mentality. Focus on looking for ways to add value
instead. Do it with zero expectations and everyone wins
.5. Create A Value System
humans only have the capacity to hold 150 meaningful relationships
at any given time.
As your network grows, it’s important you do everything you can to keep your connections alive and fresh.
This is a personal call here. Do what you’re comfortable with. Don’t be sleazy or inauthentic. There’s certainly a noticeable difference between checking in because you need something and really being interested in their well being. Don’t be that guy that does only the former
.6. Have Random Conversations
Some of my best personal and professional relationships began from a random chat or chance meeting. You never know how any one relationship will develop.
This doesn’t mean to be wasteful with your time; just leave space open for the unexpected.
7. Become A Connector
One of the benefits of being a great sponsor is that it opens doors for you to be able to connect other people. In the last week alone, I’ve connected three different parties simply by retweeting people who were looking for help.
The more people you know, the more people you can help. When listening to people’s struggles and issues always be thinking of when an intro to a friend would be a great fit.
As you connect more and more people you’ll quickly become the go-to resource for people in your marketing looking to change the world. If you’re a connector, you’re indispensable.
8. Fail
The entrepreneur was a man.
You’re going to say the wrong things. You’re going to get rejected. Some of the connections you put effort into won’t pan out. Some coffee meetings will be awkward. You might not get a response to the email you spent an two hours writing.
The only way to get better with people is by making mistakes.
Keep growing. Be human
.9. Ask Great Questions
Most of the amazing affiliates I know have the uncanny ability to ask great questions.
The questions they ask motivate you; they get you unstuck. The questions they ask add value to you.
Great networkers don’t waste people’s time asking lazy and uninspired questions. They do the work and their questions show it.
If you’re asking for mentorship, don’t ask something that can be Googled. If you’re trying to help someone with a problem, dig deep.
The quality of questions you ask is directly correlated with the size of your success
.what are you going to do?
Most people reading this will nod their head in agreement.
The truth is, I want YOU to be different. I want you to develop the skills and produce the value needed to stand out. The world needs more leaders.
If you want to become a great connector of people and ideas you have to put in the work.
The steps are clear. No more excuses.
The world is your network.
GUD LUCK !!
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